All humans are selfish in some way.  But when does it get to be too much? Selfishness in a relationship is never a good thing and is especially toxic if it’s extreme.  It can be exhausting to keep a healthy relationship going with someone who is too selfish and wrapped up in themselves.


No relationship can survive if it is one-sided.  So, if you find yourself doing all the work and putting in all the effort your relationship requires without getting anything in return, perhaps your partner is too selfish and it’s time to call it quits.

Below are 5 signs that your partner is too incredibly selfish to be in a relationship with.

1. They are controlling and have too many rules

Does your partner have rules regarding what you can and can’t do? Do you feel stifled by them?  Only an incredibly selfish person would try to control his/her partner and dictate what you do on a daily basis.  Don’t waste your time and effort on someone who is so selfish that they don’t allow you to be yourself.

2. Your partner never goes out of his/her way for you

If everything is always about them and never about you, how will there will never be a balance in your relationship.  A selfish person wants people to do things for them, but will never do anything for others unless it benefits them somehow.

If your partner never puts forth any effort or never does nice things for you “just because,” you can be assured they are immensely selfish at heart.

3. They never take the time to listen to you

Conversations are about sharing thoughts and feelings.  If one partner dominates the conversation, then it isn’t a balanced conversation. If your partner cares about you, he/she will be interested in your opinions and thoughts.  A selfish person will only care about his/her own.

4. It’s all about them…ALWAYS

Your happiness should matter to your partner just as much as, or more than, theirs.  If your partner doesn’t ever consider what you want or need, it’s time to move on.  They will never consider you or your happiness to be a priority.


5. They never ask you about your day

If your partner never asks about your day, you should consider that to be a red flag. It can make you feel like he/she doesn’t care about you or what is happening in your life.

This one-sided dynamic can make you very unhappy.   You deserve to be with someone who not only asks about your day, but actively listens to you, even if what you say is mostly complaining.

This article was republished from dailyvibes.org. You can find the original post here.

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